We highly recommend this article published by TEDEd. It reminds me of when our kids were in daycare. The teachers often chanted “You get what you get and you don’t get upset!” Every time I heard that, it made me cringe. I never understood the benefit of telling young children not to get upset. It’s an impossible ask and the kids are left alone with their feelings without any support or compassion. Rather than tell our children to dismiss their feelings, I reminded them that it’s okay to be upset because it gives us an opportunity to figure out how to deal with it.
Allow Children to Embrace Their Emotions
Kids react when something goes wrong in their day. And rightly so. Of course, their reactions may appear over dramatic and unnecessary. But, let’s remember that those feelings of frustration, anger and helplessness are new to young children. Adults often try to solve the issue quickly because it’s so unpleasant to hear children scream, pout, or cry. But rather than ignore the emotions and try for a quick fix to rebuild a fallen Lego set, or separate quarreling siblings, parents ought to ask how the child feels, listen, and offer patience, compassion, and comfort.