All Emotions Are Acceptable. Not All Behaviors Are.
It’s important to distinguish between an emotion and a behavior. Getting upset is a natural reaction to certain situations. Parents can’t actually prevent their children from getting upset. Saying no will not change their emotions. Sending a child to his room won’t help him from getting upset. Instead, at that point, he’s just alone.
Parents can, however, help children learn to anticipate a situation and recognize their feelings. We can help kids control their reactions and behavior during an emotional time.
Be a Role Model and Show Empathy and Understanding
Be a role model who shows self-regulation and manages the volume. Parents can take a time out to reset and find a calm voice. Children learn from their parents and when parents speak in a polite, respectful manner, their kids will do the same.
Show empathy and acknowledge how a child is feeling. Kids will eventually understand that the emotion doesn’t feel good and they will learn to accept and process those feelings. Having someone who understands makes that process easier.
A Healthy Positive Environment Fosters Controlled Emotional Behavior
Avoid punishing a child for any misbehavior caused by an emotional reaction. Positive guidance helps kids develop emotional intelligence to manage and regulate their behavior. Whereas punishment increases negative emotions and self-doubt while eliminating the opportunity to learn how to deal with the original feeling.
Positive, nurturing parenting fosters a supportive environment where kids can learn to recognize and manage their emotions. In turn, they self-regulate controlled behavior.