Children’s lives are not stress-free. Many kids are in school for up to 8 hours a day, plus time in extracurricular activities. They meet new friends in new environments and interact with many adults throughout the school day. Kids study problem sets, take tests, and follow a schedule that they have little, if any, say in coordinating. And like, adults, children deal with colds, muscle aches and mental fatigue. Parents need to provide support and help their kids develop their own way of tackling life challenges. Because kids who are resilient have an easier time navigating obstacles and extract more joy from their daily life.
Why Resiliency is Important
Resilience is the ability to adapt well to adversity, trauma, threats and other difficult situations. Resilient kids are problem solvers and they tackle unfamiliar situations in stride, seeking ways to find a solution rather than being overcome with anxiety.
Top Tips on Raising Resilient Kids
- Avoid accommodating every need of the child.
- Give kids age-appropriate freedom and help them learn and set their own limits.
- Try replacing Why questions with How questions. By way of example, asking “How will you fix the situation?” can foster problem solving skills. Conversely, asking “Why did you lose the money?” can lead to feeling blamed and anxious without any resolution.
- Help your child recognize, accept, and manage their emotions.
- Teach specific skills such as how to start a conversation or how to practice viewing a situation from the other person’s perspective.
- Being calm and resilient parents will provide a great example for your children.